Comfort Queen Yahoo Community
Jennifer Louden brings you a place to: exchange self-care ideas, share creative projects including photos of your art and other projects, communicate self-care resources (local, national, and web-based) and offer one another support.
This is not a place to whine nor do you have to visit regularly to get help nor is it a place to advertise! Rules are simple: be kind, ask for what you need, and offer what you can. No advertising of any kind including multi-level or "freebies!"
Here's what one participant had to say:
"I'm happy I finally logged into this community. I've been using The Life Organizer faithfully for 14 weeks now. Every Sunday, I sit down and answer as many of the prompts as speak to me. It's been truly enlightening. Yesterday I had this terrible backache, and the prompt was, 'How can I meet myself where I am today?' and then 'So, this Is where I am; now, what do I need?' I thought, I'm a little depressed, a little achey, a little lost. I immediately thought, a hot bath! so that's how I nurtured myself. It turned my otherwise depressing evening around. I went out and did some projects at a cafe, and came home refreshed and feeling productive. It's amazing how we can ignore our even most basic needs, even physical ones!"
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Here's a recent exchange on our list:
Jessica asked, "I have heard about the Life Organizer. I think I saw it at Barnes & Noble. How do you find it helps? Is it easy to follow? I have a really hard time with organization in general, and my attention span is not all that great (developmental delays and A.D.D.)?"
Answered: "I have found it to be very helpful. It is what this particular community is organized around. It isn't really an organizer in the usual sense. I think I would classify it as a Clarifying Tool. Of course, when you clarify things, they usually fall into a natural order by themselves, and I think that's part of the point.
The way it works is that each week, there are five or six mindful questions that help you figure out what you need and what's really important to you, so that you can begin to live a little more the life you want.
For example, some of this week's questions:
- What do I need less of this week?
- What could be a good rhythm for my week?
- Am I doing something for someone else that I want to do for myself?
Each week there is a place for developing and writing down a simple intention for your week. My intention this week is to focus on the regular steady activities of daily life: to just *live*. That's because I've been running on overwhelm a lot lately.
Then there are three things that are always the same: Let Go Of, Have To, and Could Do. Many weeks those are the most helpful things for me, because it helps me ratchet down from my oh-my-God-I-have-so-much-to-do-and-it's- all-critical-and-I-don't-know-how-I-can-possibly-get-it-all-done mindset, take a breath, and decide where I can give myself some breaks, what actually is critical, what won't stop the world revolving if I don't get it done although I'd like to do it if I can, and what things it might be healthier to let go of completely. This never fails to sane-ify my week!
I don't answer all the questions every week. Usually I set aside some time on Saturday mornings while I'm having a cup of tea in bed, and answer the ones that speak to my current situation, figure out the LGO, HT, and CD, and formulate an intention for the week. I put the page in my Day Timer, and look at it occasionally throughout the week to remind myself of my intention, and sometimes I add to my answers, or answer a question I had skipped, but not always. If I come across a helpful quote during the week, I will write that down on the page.
I worked out of the book last year, which was very convenient. I actually won a second copy, which was going to be for this year, but then I gave it to my overwhelmed new-mom of a baby sister! So this year I'm printing out the pages from the Word file. That's working well for me, too."
Please join in and find the support and community that helps make change possible!
All my Best,
Jen Louden
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"I've used the Life Organizer calendar for the past 2 years.My thoughts on how it has helped me: focusing on the necessary and really important 'stuff' of everyday life; learning how to set aside the non-urgent tasks; gradually letting go completely of the 'superfluous.' Some days/weeks are easier than others . . . such is life. I will never have it completely, 100% all 'together' but then there would be nothing to strive for. Whenever I sit down with my life organizer and maybe a cup of hot herbal tea, I feel a sense of calmness come over me, because I know that, whatever lies ahead in my week, Ican work somethingout. There are always wonderful tidbits of advice& words that help to 'ground' me." --Cathleen, Tarrytown, NY
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